« get out of my face | Main | everything is relative »

July 30, 2008



Hi Rachel
I agree that in some places Brazilians abroad can be snobs but most of the people I know in the Washington DC metro area is great. I think it is only a matter of finding them :) Particularly for women, there are a few wonderful groups (in DC and in other places) that meet online and in person and where you can develop wonderful friendships. I don't have the links to the groups handy, but they can be found in the Brazilian Embassy's website.


I confess I don't really care about people's ethnicity/citizenship and won't be friends with someone if the *only* thing we have in common is coming from the same city/state/country.

I met only two Brazilians during my year in Barcelona - one was a friend of a friend and the other was someone I met through my blog. We became good friends and are still in contact. But I didn't talk to every Brazilian I saw on the streets, unless they were in trouble and I felt I could help. But that had nothing to do with the fact that they were Brazilian.

But I think you and Eli would always have completely different experiences in your relations with Brazilians abroad. To most Brazilians, Eli is simply another Brazilian while you are something more exotic - an American who loves Brazil and speaks Portuguese. Brazilians - and any other people, really - LOVE meeting foreigners who can speak their language. I think Eli would have had the same experience in the US that he is having in Europe.


I agree with Eli somehow. When I arrived in the US for my exchange program 4 years ago, I was 20 years-old and kept being ditched by brazilians because I wasn't 21 :) nice huh? Who cares if I couldn't go out with them to the clubs, I could still hang out with them "during the day"... anyways, that made me so mad that I started refusing talking or having any contact with any brazilians, which worked very well for my english. Not to mention that a lot of these people feel like they are the next best thing just because they live in the US. Go figure.
And in France, it's the same. I guess once people have their lives settled in another country, which is not easy and you know it, they don't want to mess it up, to be bothered with other people's problems once they've overcomed their own. It's selfish but it's true. I can't even count how many times I was ignored by brazilians in the begining because my french was crap. And guess what? No brazilians for me in Paris either. French people are not that helpful either so I just hang out with other foreigners.
It must be a matter of finding the right people... I'm sure there are nice people around... I wouldn't mind helping others, I would be glad to help someone who has the same problems that I had before get rid of them more easily than I did. But the problem is that Eli, for example, must be bumping into all the jackasses (because believe me, for some reason, those are easier to find!).


Fico feliz em saber que vc adora Brasil e o nosso idioma.
A minha experiencia com brasileiros fora do Brasil, nao é muito feliz. Sempre que escuto portugues por aqui, me aproximo toda feliz e me apresento...mas eles parecem nao corresponder a minha alegria. Me parecem até desconfiados e assombrados. Uma vez li na Revista Veja que brasileiro que mora no exterior, sao assim mesmo. Motivo nao sei !


I agree with Eli... At least here in LA I experience the same thing. There is a brazilian restaurant that we love going to. In the beginning, I'd be really excited, and speak portuguese with the people that work there. They'd respond IN ENGLISH!! What the hell? I don't get excited anymore when I meet brazilians here. I gave up. They're in their own little world, like Eli said, and it's almost like you're going to take something away from them... Disgusting...

The comments to this entry are closed.